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"Really, when did you last use that soup tureen?"


 

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The Danville News

Robert John Andrews

May 8, 2025

“Until Again”

Word Count: 750

 

We wish we had known our circuit breaker box, the Load center, had been outlawed.  Add that to other items that need fixing so we can close on our house.  Why would it be easy?  At least we were smart enough to start thinning our stuff over these last years.  Off in the mail went boxes of one daughter’s trinkets and soccer trophies.  Off via mail went a carton of blue ribbons won by elder daughter, along with assorted memorabilia.  Last year, we presented our son with a Rubbermaid tub of his Nintendo games.  He got them working.  Off they went in the mail, along with his early artwork.  He explained how many gamers are fed up with the complex, lurid modern video games and want the simplicity of what they experienced with Mario, Goal, Silent Service, Duck Hunt. 

 

Take a hint, lighten the load when you can.  Fix what you can when you can.  You’ll get a more harmonious outcome.  Really, when did you last use that soup tureen? 

 

Our thinning started with discarding everything in the garage attic.  Next came purging the storage room off the utility room.  We knew we were on the right track when I finally conceded I never was going to get into those size 32 bell bottom pants.  Do I really need 148 ties, some older than our house?  We bought our house as our starter home, it had a yard, and, best, the kids walked to Mahoning-Cooper Elementary School.  Our first night here, Helen Rhawn brought over Kentucky Fried Chicken.  Neighbor Les Angus didn’t know if we preferred red or white wine, so he brought both.  God had brought us to the right place. 

 

What does make a house a home?  Sure, there are items of special attachment.  I’m fond of my bistro glasses.  I really appreciate the flat top newels of our stairway, perfect for placing a glass or a book.  Ghosts lurk in our homes, spirits of memories and dreams.  It’s beautiful, but can you cling to ghosts? 

 

Author Ray Bradbury tells about an old lady who couldn’t let go and move on.  She found change unwelcome, inhibiting.  She bristled at how two girls wouldn’t believe she ever was young.  One night, her dead husband visits her:  “You’re always trying to be the things you were, instead of the person you are tonight.  Why do you save those ticket stubs...?”

 

Augustine, in discussing how eternity means we’re liberated from the clock, put a 5th Century theological slant to our notion of time.  He describes how there are not three times.  There only is the present of past things, the present things, the present of future things.  Past is present memory, future is present expectation. 

 

Memories fill my present.  Howard was dying while watching the Children’s Hospital being built, laughing at how deep they had to dig the footers.  “They should have asked me,” Howard said.  “You could drill a well sideways here.”  Howard was my eighth funeral after coming to Danville.  197 since.  Remember when Merck was a big deal?  Remember the first layoffs at Geisinger in 1993 when the new boss really muffed it by security escorting a well-respected clinician out the side door because he was going to retire soon anyway?  Trips to Honduras.  Books written.  Stories told.  Sips shared.  Before dawn hospital visits.  The privilege of preaching and Bible study.  Alternating tears, laughter, silence.  Some successes.  Some failures and failings.  All worthwhile. 

 

Whoops, the present slipped away again.  The wise soon learn that happiness is a by-product, never a goal.  What is the secret to happiness?  Not being worried about being happy.

 

Change, ironically enough, is the constant.

 

A recent happy memory occurred last Easter Day.  I was invited to lead worship for the last time at Grove Church.  We celebrated Gianna’s baptism, followed by the confirmation of Gianna’s older sisters, Faithful and Favor.  The day before a dear friend gave us two wooden Easter eggs, hand-painted.  I had intended to include them as part of my sermon, but the extravagance of the day flustered me.  I had planned to place an egg on the communion table to dramatize their provenance.  Instead, after the service, I gave one to the two girls, describing how it was made in Ukraine but the place were these beautiful Easter eggs are made was destroyed by Putin’s power-mad war.  The place is no more.  I gave them the egg, asking these two lovely girls to please hatch us a better world. 

COLUMN ARCHIVE

"Really, when did you last use  that soup tureen?"

Thursday, May 8, 2025

"'Until Again"

"We require clear lenses to see clearly."

Thursday, April 24, 2025

"'Dorothy"

Back to Bocce."

Thursday, April 10, 2025

"'Bocce Philosophy"

"Encouage them that they treat each other with respect."

Thursday, March 13, 2025

"'Conflict"

"What ring?"

Thursday, February 14, 2025

"'Will you be my valentine?"

"Some admire crosses.  Others carry them."

Thursday, January 16, 2025

"'Selma

"Who's the loser?"

Thursday, December 19, 2024

"Baby Steps"

"Bad politics demands good religion"

Thursday, November 21, 2024

"Bonhoeffer Time"

"Words Matter"

Thursday, October 24, 2024

"Remember, Remember"

"Eat crow, not cats."

Thursday, September 26, 2024

"Pragmatism"

"They're my siters."

Thursday, August 29, 2024

"Shirley"

"They are not born pink."

Thursday, August 1, 2024

"National Pink Flamingo Day"

"Twenty-seven."

Thursday, July 4th, 2024

"A July 4th Tribute"

"Juvenile workers of the world unite!."

Thursday, June 6, 2024

"Neglected"

"Positives alone defeat negatives."

Thursday, May 9, 2024

"The Art of Protest"

"Wrinkled hands can still hold the tiller firm."

Thursday, April 11, 2024

"Disquietude"

"Who remembers dialing long distance?"

Thursday, March 14, 2024

"Amerika First

" Baby you can drive my car."

Thursday, February 15, 2024

"The Art of Merging"

"But you had to bring your own hot chocolate."

Thursday, January 25, 2024

"Old Smoothies"

"What can we do until election day, November 3, 2026?"

Thursday, March 20, 2025

"'Poop"

"I can say this because I know all about success by merit."

Thursday, February 27, 2025

"'Meritocracy"

"It's the one we feed."

Thursday, January 30, 2025

"'What's in a name?"

"Go ahead, fact-check me."

Thursday, January 2, 2025

"Thanks Joe"

"It never happened."

Thursday, December 5, 2024

"Bible in School"

"We crave a glass of wine, desperately"

Thursday, November 7, 2024

"No Crystal Ball"

"What are your stories?."

Thursday, October 10, 2024

"Family Trees"

"Worse, it failed to establish a consistent judiciary."

Thursday, September 12, 2024

"What's In It For Them?"

"I miss those days."

Thursday, August 15, 2024

"Seeking Answers"

"We need more Windex."

Thursday, July 18th, 2024

"We finally agree"

"I probably won't convince you."

Thursday, June 20, 2024

"Delusion"

"The phrase is absent from prior drafts."

Thursday, May 23, 2024

"Mother Country"

"Don't fence me in."

Thursday, April 25, 2024

"Batter Up"

"A chair removed."

Thursday, March 28 2024

"Running Clock"

"Deposit prayer.  Pull knob.  Claim treat."

Thursday, February 29, 2024

"Special Days"

"These are chrysalis days."

Thursday, February 1, 2024

"Hiraeth"

"Ah-Pa, how did America survive those years?"

Thursday, January 4, 2024

"Empty Pockets"

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